Tips for Learning to Love Your College Acceptances

Learning to Love Your College Acceptances

Angela Sherman

April 17, 2018

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Learning to Love Your College Acceptances

When I was admitted to the University of Chicago, but not Davidson (my dream school), I failed to accept reality with my college acceptances. Staying up until 2 am every night for the next week, I would stare at the Davidson homepage and romanticize about a life there that just, well… wasn’t going to happen.

The feelings of sadness, frustration, outrage, and self-doubt that manifested after receiving a handful of rejections emerged as delayed symptoms. But when they hit, they hit hard. And then, almost as suddenly, they disappeared as I was learning to love my college acceptances.

Rejection—however painful or downright embarrassing—is a part of life. This is especially true during the college admissions process, where applicants can never perfectly predict or control their college acceptances. Very few students are accepted everywhere they apply, which is why including enough safety schools is so highly recommended.

Taking rejection as it comes and learning to love your college acceptances will help you get excited about the choices that you do have, and about the incredible future ahead of you. Below are six steps to take when the schools you fell in love with (or maybe even the ones you thought you’d be a shoo-in for) send you that dreaded rejection letter.

Vent!

It’s okay to cry.

Or kick and scream, and accidentally stub your toe get even more frustrated.

Or take it all out on that punching bag in your basement—you can even stick school X’s logo on it and make it personal—whatever works best for you!

Seeing a notification of rejection can be heartbreaking. Rather than suppress the emotional reaction you are inevitably going to have, do as Elsa would and just let it go.

React, and then do what you need to do to feel better. Speaking with family and friends about your frustrations, writing in a journal, playing with small, fluffy animals (works every time, really), or being alone with your thoughts can help you think more clearly about the next steps.

Reflect!  

After cooling down, remember how far you have come and acknowledge what you have accomplished already. Take solace in knowing that you put your best foot forward given the time and resources you had, from managing grades, test scores, and extracurricular activities to getting supportive letters of recommendation and even finding that single, missed typo in your personal statement right before hitting submit. Applying to college is a monster of a task, so be proud of having reached the finish line.

Keep in mind that colleges and universities become steadily more selective as application numbers increase. Schools that, when I was applying, might have been considered ‘safeties’ for ambitious students are now solid ‘fit’ or ‘reach’ schools. Furthermore, what admissions offices look for varies year after year. Statistically speaking, you were up against a great deal of competition!

The nature of the college admissions process requires being vulnerable and having the confidence to venture into the unknown—a daunting and exhausting responsibility. You have literally bared it all in your applications, sharing sometimes very intimate information about your family, life, and values. That can make rejection feel personal, but instead, choose to see it as a stepping stone for reflection and redirection.

Strategize!

Be sure to follow up with the schools where you were put on the college waitlist, if any. Sending a well-written waitlist letter confirming your interest in a school, with updates about your academic and extracurricular life, is a strategic move you won’t regret. However, this doesn’t mean to pine all summer hoping for another option!

Look more deeply into your safety schools, too. They may not have been your top choices initially, but they can still provide you with a memorable college experience and, sometimes, a very promising financial aid package or scholarship.

Stay positive!

Try looking over your acceptances with a clear mind.

Consider that the so-called dream school was not your only possible dream school. Just like in human relationships, compatibility is often about trial and error, acceptance, and compromise. You may have imagined a perfect relationship between you and that one school, but now try giving another school a chance. Break down your illusory concept of perfection based on school X to see what things, both tangible and intangible, you want from your college experience. Allow yourself to discover how the schools that did accept you still have many of the qualities (and quirks!) you were looking for.

Connect!

Attend admitted student weekends and join chat groups of the people who could be your new classmates. Investigate more deeply the academic departments that interest you most. Even email one of your possible future professors and see if you could meet them while you visit campus.

Connections will help you see the benefits of each vibrant college community. You may also find a future friend or roommate along the way!

Choose!

Unless you have only received a single acceptance, you have options. You have the choice to go with one college or university or another, and that is a great feeling. Learn to love your college acceptances and give yourself time to mull over the facts and figures about each one, so that you can go to the school that best fits you. Then get yourself a school t-shirt and share your decision with the world.

And don’t forget to celebrate!

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